Wednesday, June 25, 2014

hijacking sobriety

From Psychologist Stanton Peele;
The Hijacking of Sobriety by The Recovery Movement

For recovery absolutists, no one recovers from alcoholism without AA, just as no one can recover without giving up drinking forever. What arrogance! Who gave these self-appointed experts the power to tell everyone how they must achieve recovery?
Just as the recovery movement dictates the language of recovery and sobriety, it also tries to dictate the only true way to achieve recovery. The focus on abstinence is the alpha and omega of the 12 steps. But it requires people in recovery to decide that their lives revolve around an empty space, which is not only undesirable but unsustainable. Abstinence is fine as a recovery plan for either the short or the long term.  But you can't commit to nothingness, only to health, goals, and plans.
Surely someone will retort about the millions helped by AA, but as evidenced by most rooms
around the country, there are as many or more disappointed by the "one size fits all" method
I have witnessed many after 20+ years in the rooms; there are countless addiction switchers,
who turn to food, sex, gambling or shopping, failing to address the root causes for addiction.
Kudos to those who thrive in AA, but don't criticize those who fail as just in denial or not
"working it" hard enough 

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Sunday, June 22, 2014

Monday quotes

 The worst disability is a bad attitude. — Michael Muir (1953- )

 Do something for somebody every day for which you do not get paid. — Albert Schweitzer (1875-1965)

 Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does. — William James (1842-1910)

  The greatest joys are those that are shared. — Leon Fleisher (1928- )
  Real heroes don't save the world, they serve the world. — Quoted by Linda Bird
  Think before you speak, but don't speak all you think. — Maida Villasensor
  A rich person is not one who has the most but the one who needs the least. — Unknown
  A good listener helps us overhear ourselves. — Yahia Lababidi (1973- )
   Each morning puts a man on trial and each evening passes judgment. — Roy L. Smith (1930-1998)
   He who wants to accomplish finds a way. He who doesn't finds an excuse. — Hector D. Cantu (1961- )
   Men build too many walls and not enough bridges. — Isaac Newton (1643-1727)
   It is our choices... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. — J. K. Rowling (1965- )

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Sunday, June 15, 2014

Monday quotes

(1567-1622)Don't confuse what you have a right to do with what's right to do. — William Bennett (1943- )

Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product. — Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962)

The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. — Henny Youngman (1906-1998)

We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope. — Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968)

Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people. — Barbara Bush (1925- )

Spring is wonderful. It makes you feel young enough to do all the things you're old enough to know you can't. — Franklin P. Jones (1908-1980)

Be careful of your thoughts; they may become words at any moment. — Iara Gassen

You're not going to see your dreams come true if you don't put wings, legs and arms, hands and feet on 'em. — Dolly Parton (1946- )

Never compare yourself to others. You will invariably compare your weaknesses to other people's strengths. — Mary Kay Ash (1918-2001)

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. — Winston Churchill (1874-1965)

The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook. — William James (1842-1910)

Do not wish to be anything but what you are and try to be that perfectly. — St. Francis de Sales (1567-1622)

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Tuesday, June 10, 2014

celebrity substance abuse news

Demi Lovato Recalls 'Dark and Deep' Struggles
Singer Demi Lovato discussed her struggles with alcohol, drugs and a eating disorder in a recent interview. "When I was in treatment, I honestly thought my career was over," Lovato aaid. "But when I came out of treatment, I had more supportive fans than ever."

Amanda Bynes Competent for DUI Trial
Former "She's the Man" star Amanda Bynes has been ruled compentent to stand trial on driving under the influence charges. Bynew was supposed of have gone on trial September 24 for the April 2012 DUI charge by failed to show up for court.

Olivia Newton-John's Daughter Battled Drugs
Chloe Lattanzi, daughter of singer Olivia Newton-John, blames the stress of growing with a famous parent for her battle with drugs, alcohol and anorexia. The 27-year-old said in an interview that, "fame totally messes you up."

Jake T. Austin's Car in Hit-and-Run
Shermon Oaks, California police are investgating an incident in which a 2010 Audio registered to "Wizards of Waverly Place" actor Jake T. Austin crashed into three parked vehciles. The driver and passengers in the Audi were whisked away by a driving service before police arrived, but it was the same vehicle in which Austin, whose real name is Jake Szymanski, got a DUI last month.

Buckwild Star Anna Davis Arrested
More legal troubles face former "Buckwile" reality star Anna Davis. The 23-year-old "wild child" of the television show's cast has been arrested fro aggravated DUI by Kanawha County, West Virginia police. The "aggravated" charge usually means a blood-alcohol level over 0.15.

Rep. Trey Radel to Enter Rehab
Freshman U.S. Congressman Trey Radel has taken a leave of absence and plans to enter rehab after pleading guilty to misdemeanor cocaine possession. "I have no excuse for what I have done. I have let down our country," he said at a news conference.

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Sunday, June 8, 2014

Monday Quotes

Boredom is the feeling that everything is a waste of time; serenity, that nothing is. — Thomas Szasz (1920- )

 Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it. — Groucho Marx (1890-1977)

  To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness. — Bertrand Russell (1872-1970)
  The longer you can look back, the farther you can look forward. — Winston S. Churchill (1874-1965)
   Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. — Donna Westmoreland Oneal (1949- )
   You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips. — Oliver Goldsmith (1730-1774)
    Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go. — Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)

May we each be the person someone else is grateful for. — Arlyn Newcomb (1966- )

Would the boy you were be proud of the man you are? — Laurence J. Peter (1919-1990)

What we think, or what we know, or what we believe, is in the end, of little consequence. The only thing of consequence is what we do. — John Ruskin (1819-1900)

 Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. — Ascribed to Jules Ellinger

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