completed my 8 week stay at
St Gregory Retreat today.
the Life Process program used
here was designed by Dr.
Stanton Peele. I read his book
"The Truth about Addiction &
Recovery" a year ago, and was
impressed by his approach.
I have to admit I learned more
about recovery in these 8 weeks
than all my trips to rehab and
subsequent years in aa.
the major difference involves
not viewing substance abuse as
a disease nor declaring powerlessness.
without getting into a DSM-IV debate,
the practical elements of these views
are eliminating the "crutch" associated with
the disease concept, and realizing we have
the power within ourselves to identify and
correct the habits and behaviors that lead
I now understand the value of exercise,
socializing, performing community service
and goal setting, when seeking recovery.
there is so much more than just staying
away from a drink or drug; it's living
up to one's potential, remaining
responsible, accountable and reliable.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Posted by Fireman John at 10:27 PM
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Pamela Bach Sentenced 90 Days in DUI Case
Pamela Bach, ex-wife of actor David Hasselhoff, has been sentenced to 90 days in jail after pleading no contest to a drunken driving charge from November. She received 60 of those days in jail because she was on probation for a previous DUI offense when she was arrested in November with a blood alcohol concentration of 0.14.
Cameron Douglas Sentenced to Five Years
Facing an alleged 10-year "mandatory" sentence of 10 years in federal prison for trafficking large amounts of methamphetamine and cocaine, Cameron Douglas, son of actor Michael Douglas, was sentenced to only five years by U.S. District Judge Richard M. Berman. The sentence came after many of Douglas' famous relatives wrote letters supporting a lesser sentence.
Corey Dillon Arrested For Drunk Driving
Corey Dillion, former New England Patriots running back, was arrested in Malibu, California on suspicion of drunk driving. Police said when they stopped him for driving too slow, Dillion exhibited "multiple symptoms of being under the influence."
Mexican Drug Kingpin Sentenced in Oregon
The Mexican leader of one of the biggest methamphetamine-producing organizations in Oregon has been sentenced to 30 years behind bars. Jorge Ortiz-Oliva, 40, was the boss behind three meth "super labs" and dozens of marijuana grow operations, according to investigators.
Different Sentences for Repeat Drunk Drivers
An Indiana judge may have some explaining to do concerning two recent sentences he handed down. A male driver with five previous convictions was given four years in jail, while a female defendant with three previous drunk driving convictions, was given probation and had her charge reduced to a misdemeanor.
Liquor Commissioner Charged With Drunk Driving
Richard Simard was charged with drunk driving after he was stopped by police for driving erratically and he failed a field sobriety test. Simard, who refused to take a breath test, is one of New Hampshire's state liquor commissioners.
Previous HeadlinesWillie Nelson's Band Members Face Charges
Saying famous people are not above the law, a North Carolina prosecutor is pursuing charges against six members of Willie Nelson's band on drug and alcohol offenses. The charges stem from a search of the band's bus in January in which police seized substances which are being tested at the state crime lab. Nelson was not on the bus at the time.
Girlicious Singer Pleads Not Guilty to Cocaine Charge
Natalie Nicole Mejia, a member of the pop music group Girlicious, has entered a not guilty plea to charges of possession of cocaine with intent to sell. Mejia was arrested in March with a dozen bags of cocaine in her purse during a traffic stop. She claimed she didn't know how the drugs got into her Gucci bag.
Kentucky Assistant Coach Charged With DUI
For University of Kentucky assistant basketball coach Rod Strickland, failing several roadside sobriety tests after being stopped for running a red light was not a new experience. It turns out Strickland has had three previous drunk driving arrests. He was also charged with failure to maintain insurance and improper registration.
Drunk Granny Wrecks Car With Kids in Backseat
A Tennessee woman is facing nine different charges after she crashed her car in Memphis. The problem for Sharon Kimbrough was not that she wrecked her car, but she was drinking and had three grandchildren - ages 3, 2 and 1 - unbuckled in the backseat at the time.
Third-Grader Gives Out Heroin at School
Police have arrested the mother of an 8-year-old who had 80 bags of heroin in his backpack at school. Police may not have found the small baggies, stamped with the words "Trust Me" on them, except the third-grader was handing them out to his friends at school.
Man Sets Home Ablaze With Pot Bong
If you want to clean your marijuana bong, you might not want to do so by soaking it with alcohol and setting it on fire. That was what a New Mexico man tried when he set his mobile home on fire. He was arrested when an off-duty deputy saw him driving away from the burning trailer
Posted by Fireman John at 6:51 PM
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Don't let anyone steal your dream. It's your dream, not theirs.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself.
Michel de Montaigne
It is folly for a man to pray to the gods for that which he has the power to obtain by himself.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.
There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, learning from failure.
A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting
Efficiency is doing things right. Effectiveness is doing the right things.
There is nothing more genuine than breaking away from the chorus to learn the sound of your own voice
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say “thank you?”
William A. Ward
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.William Arthur Ward
Posted by Fireman John at 12:18 PM
Saturday, April 24, 2010
the method of treatment that focuses on
helping someone learn and use new
thinking skills to modify negative behavior.
it is comprised of both cognitive
(pertaining to the mental processes of
perception, memory, judgment, and reasoning),
and behavioral factors.
the stratagies of the therapy are to uncover
irrational and problematic thinking modes
that often accompany psycholgical distress.
basically, how you think is how you feel.
the goal is to challenge and change negative,
behavioral techniques work along the premise
that maladaptive behavires are learned, and
can be unlearned as well.
the tools used are training in assertiveness,
relaxation and desensitivation to feared objects.
together, cognitive and behavioral strategies
create a balanced approach to understanding
and treating common life problems.
by examining how we view ourselves and
our enviornment, the goal is to effect positive
and lasting change through modification of
maladaptive thoughts or behaviors.
our feelings are influenced by the ways we
view life events.
by changing these thoughts, one can change
resulting feelings as well.
Posted by Fireman John at 10:28 AM
Friday, April 23, 2010
Posted by Fireman John at 9:39 AM
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Posted by Fireman John at 7:02 PM
Monday, April 19, 2010
found an interesting online site;
Drinkaware.co.uk, based in England
complete with features, facts, tips
and questions about alcohol
just one of many available sources of
useful information . whatever the medium,
be it press, tv or internet, there is always
a fresh perspective on the issues of addiction
Posted by Fireman John at 9:07 AM
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Posted by Fireman John at 11:54 AM
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
alcohol awareness month-
initially geared toward teens and young
adults at prom and graduation time,
alcohol awareness is expanding to
other groups as well
getting the message to pregnant
women who still may be unaware
of the risks involved even with
moderate drinking, is crucial.
senior citizens are becoming an
increasing group who are much
more difficult to identify and
address by health care workers.
professionals and white collar
workers who may be developing
patterns of abuse without even
the most obvious group is college
students. dealing with peer pressure
and what's become almost a rite
of passage and is expected.
Posted by Fireman John at 3:13 PM
Sunday, April 11, 2010
* I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.
Thomas Alva Edison
Wisdom is knowing what to do next, skill is knowing how to do it, and virtue is doing it.
David Starr Jordan
Learn the richness of solitude and quiet. That "still small voice" is yearning to be heard.
Think like a man of action, act like a man of thought.
You have achieved success if you have lived well, laughed often and loved much.
Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
Defeat is simply a signal to press onward.
If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down, but the staying down.
* Happiness is something that comes into our lives through doors we don't even remember leaving open.
What happens to a man is less significant than what happens within him.
- Louis L. Mann
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.
- Soren Kierkegaard
Luck is when opportunity knocks, and you answer.
The miracle is this – the more we share, the more we have.
- Leonard Nimoy
Our lives improve only when we take chances - and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
- Walter Anderson
You can't do anything about the length of your life, but you can do something about its width and depth.
- Shira Tehrani
Posted by Fireman John at 11:57 PM
Posted by Fireman John at 11:58 AM
Saturday, April 10, 2010
an eye-opening article from The Marin Institute
lists the far reaching and costly effects of over-
consumption of alcohol.
25 to 40% of all hospital beds filled due
to alcohol related complications
total annual health care costs for alcohol
related problems--175.9 BILLION
untreated alcohol related problems waste
184.6 BILLION in health care, business
and criminal justice costs and cause
more than 100,000 deaths
total cost of underage drinkers, due to
crashes and crime; 52.8 BILLION
alcohol is the #1 killer of teens;
and is associated with homicides,
suicides and drownings--the next 3
leading causes of death among youths.
sad and staggering stats about the
devastation caused by this legal substance.
Posted by Fireman John at 7:09 PM
Friday, April 9, 2010
...the other side of our inventory
anyone in traditional 12 step
programs, has made one or several
lists of character flaws and defects.
helpful yes, to a point.
for many years I had never been
encouraged to list and call upon
my assets and resources, as a
means of addressing addiction.
we all have life resources that
should be drawn from when
dealing with any addiction.
inventory what you have, what
might be improved and what you
among these are; skills & talents,
family & friends, social skills,
self-management, sports &
recreation and spiritual pursuits.
we have all been made well aware
of our shortcomings-
isn't it time to examine the positive
side our inventory?
Posted by Fireman John at 12:38 AM
Thursday, April 8, 2010
1. you will receive a body-
you may like it or hate it, but
it will be yours for the entire
period of this time around
2. you will learn lessons-
you are enrolled in a full-time
school called life. each day in this
school you will have an opportunity
to learn lessons. you may like them
or think them irrelevent and stupid
3. there are no mistakes, only lessons-
growth is a process of trial and
error; experimentation. the failed
experiments are as much apart of
the process as the one that
4. a lesson is repeated until learned-
a lesson will be presented to you
in various forms until you have
learned it. when you have learned it,
you can then go on to the next lesson
5. learning lessons does not end-
there is no part of life that does
not contain its lessons. if you are
alive, there are lessons to be learned
6. "there" is no better than "here"-
when your "there" has become
a "here", you will simply obtain
another "there" that will again look
better than "here'
7. others are merely mirrors of you-
you cannot love or hate something
about another person unless it reflects
something you love or hate about yourself
8. what you make of your life is up to you-
you have all the tools and resources
you need. what you do with them
is up to you. the choice is yours
9. your answers lie inside you-
the answers to life's questions lie
inside you. all you need to do is
look, listen and trust
10. you will forget all this
11. you can remember it whenever
Posted by Fireman John at 8:24 AM
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Posted by Fireman John at 12:49 AM
Monday, April 5, 2010
Alice Walker: Expect nothing, live frugally on surprise
.Anais Nin: Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the actions stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living
.Benjamin Franklin: Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that the stuff life is made of.
Buddha: If we could see the miracle of a single flower clearly, our whole life would change
.Carl Jung: There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year's course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word 'happy' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.
Eleanor Roosevelt: I think somehow we learn who we really are and then live with that decision.
Franklin P. Jones: Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
Henry James: Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.
Joan Baez: You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you're going to live.
.John F. Kennedy: As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
Marcus Aurelius: The universe is transformation; our life is what our thoughts make it.
Norman MacEwan: Happiness is not so much in having as sharing. We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Robert Byrne: The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
Robert Louis Stevenson: To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life.
Posted by Fireman John at 10:23 AM
Sunday, April 4, 2010
the crucial elements to addressing
social skills are key to the ability
to deal with people and life in general.
how we communicate, problem solve
and deal with down time.
important also are managing negative
emotions and resisting urges.
obviously, communication is paramount
to every relationship, be it personal or
it is the ability to recieve and present
problem solving can be difficult for
addicts. many of whom have relied
on drugs, food, shopping or sex to
cope with problems
there are ways to break these
keep things managable, review options,
evaluate success and know when to
continue or change approach.
acknowledge your success, no matter
how small and realize you can solve
peoblems without a substance crutch.
in my 9 years of running a sober house
the most elusive trait for many has been
the ability to be alone.
the importance of relaxation cannot
this centering, calming time boosts
self-esteem and confidence
Posted by Fireman John at 11:58 AM
Saturday, April 3, 2010
starting monday we will be
identifying strengths and
despite what is repeated in
the rooms that addiction is
an "equal opportunity destroyer",
not all folks are created equal when
it comes to fighting substance abuse.
evidence shows that in the inner
city, the elements that counteract
addiction are often absent.
basically it is harder for people
with few resources to combat
the lure of drugs.
it isn't just financial;
the key assets to addressing
addictive behaviors are family,
work, interests, and coping skills.
tomorrow- identifying resources
Posted by Fireman John at 1:25 PM
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Posted by Fireman John at 11:41 AM