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Thursday, March 26, 2015

12 Step Myths

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For anyone who has a family member or friend struggling with substance abuse;

Common myths about 12 step recovery; Thanks Dr Stanton Peele
1. Addicts are different from normal people and can never be like them.

Regarding others—or oneself—as fundamentally different is a burden, an unnecessary identity that is as damaging as a negative drug or alcohol habit.

2. Recovery is bestowed by a force outside yourself.

 When addiction is seen to be a disease, something that clearly cannot be treated from within, you must turn yourself over to recovering addicts and alcoholics and addiction experts—and, most famously, to a “Power greater than ourselves,” in order to become whole again.

3.Addiction is always an incurable, progressive, fatal disease.

“What is the hardest addiction to quit?” The audience—many of which I reckon have experienced a number of forms of addiction—shouted in unison, “Smoking!” “Oh,” I said, “How many of you have quit smoking?” In a group of 750 people, perhaps 400 raised their hands. “How many of you,” I continued, “relied on a therapy, medical or otherwise, or a support group to quit?” Two or three people raised their hands. And why isn't smoking addressed by 12 step or rehab?  Because there is no money to be made by rehabs, doctors, counselors and drug companies. A 20 Billion dollar industry relies on the flawed disease concept that doesn't include smoking, shopping, gambling or sex addiction.

4. Recovery is a lifetime process that must include lifetime abstinence and 12-step work forever.

According to 12-step recovery, you are as likely to relapse 25 years after quitting your drug of choice as two hours afterwards. And, among the many strange messages AA prides itself on, this is perhaps the strangest: “While you are here (meaning a 12-step meeting) your addiction is in the parking lot doing push-ups.” Why is this message drummed home, even while you are supposedly undergoing the therapeutic process of leaving your addiction behind? Because AA, 12-step rehab, and addiction medicine want to convince you that you can’t survive without them. The disease theory is all about how addicts are never free—even after they stop drinking and using.

The disease view, by pervading the consciousness of our culture, makes it more likely that people will succumb to addiction as an overpowering disease in the first place. And, finally—and perhaps seemingly stranger—the disease theory can be most malicious for people who feel it has “saved” them. For most of these people would have overcome or outgrown their addictions on their own or with the help of sensible, time-limited treatment.

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Monday, March 9, 2015

Monday quotes

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I have found that if you love life, it will love you right back

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

Learn from the mistakes of others. You can\'t live long enough to make them all yourself.

It's ok to kiss a fool.
It's ok to let a fool kiss you.
But don't let a kiss fool you.

Faith is believing in something common sense tells us not to.

Take interest in your future. It's where you're going to spend the rest of your life.

Better to understand a little than to misunderstand a lot.

When at the edge of the unknown, faith provides the wings to fly.

"God may give you seeds but he won't plant them for you."

"Try not to become a man of success, but rather, try to become a man of value."
-- Albert Einstein

It takes both sunshine and rain to make a rainbow.

Everything has beauty but not everyone sees it.

Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

Sometimes, its what you dont do, that makes you who you are.

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Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Quotes for today...


What the mind doesn't understand, it worships or fears. — Alice Walker (1944- )

 Enjoy the little things in Life, for one day you'll look back and realize they were the big things. — Robert Brault

 Year after year, cookbooks and diet books are the biggest sellers—how not to eat it once you've learned how to cook it. — Andy Rooney

Power is only important as an instrument for service to the powerless. — Lech Walesa (1943-)

Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product. — Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962)

 The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. — Henny Youngman (1906-1998)

 Trust is the first step to love. — Munshi Premchand (1880-1936)

 He who wants to accomplish finds a way. He who doesn't finds an excuse. — Hector D. Cantu (1961- )

 True remorse is never just a regret over consequences; it is a regret over motive. — Mignon McLaughlin (1913-1983)

 In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments; there are consequences. — Robert Green Ingersoll (1833-1899)

We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope. — Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968)


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Monday, January 5, 2015

Monday quotes


If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies in yourself. — American Indian Proverb

 Doc, why is it that when I speak to God it's a prayer, and when God speaks to me it's schizophrenia? — Russian Joke

The only real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes. — Marcel Proust (1871-1922)

 He who wants to accomplish finds a way. He who doesn't finds an excuse. — Hector D. Cantu (1961- )

 Whenever two people meet, there are really six people present. There is each man as he sees himself, each man as the other person sees him, and each man as he really is. — William James (1842-1910)

 Men build too many walls and not enough bridges. — Isaac Newton (1643-1727)

It is our choices... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. — J. K. Rowling (1965- )

We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope. — Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968)

Ability is what you are capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it. — Lou Holtz (1937- )

Fools live to regret their words, wise men to regret their silence. — Will Henry (1912-1991)

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. — Chinese Proverb

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Monday, December 29, 2014

Monday Quotes



You must continue to gain expertise, but avoid thinking like an expert.
- Denis Waitley

Your life work is a statement of who you are. If it is not, then why are you doing it?
- Neale Donald Walsch

The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is to give it away.
- David Viscott

Where there is joy there is creation. Where there is no joy there is no creation: know the nature of joy.
- Upanishads

I make the most of all that comes and the least of all that goes.
- Sara Teasdale

The world is a looking glass. It gives back to every man a true reflection of his own thoughts.
- William Makepeace Thackeray

Standing in the middle of the road is very dangerous; you get knocked down by the traffic from both sides.
- Margaret Thatcher

It's never too late, in fiction or in life, to revise.
- Nancy Thayer

Do not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.
- James Thurber

Positive, continuous action toward your goals is the very best antidote to worry.
- Brian Tracy

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Thursday, December 25, 2014

Thoughts for today...



May we each be the person someone else is grateful for. — Arlyn Newcomb (1966- )

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. — Ascribed to Jules Ellinger

The older I get, the better I was. — Unknown

No door is so tight that rumors cannot escape it. — Robin Hobb (1952- ) in Dragon Keeper

A goal without a plan is just a wish. — Antoine de Saint-ExupĂ©ry (1900-1944)

 Fear is the tax that conscience pays to guilt. — George Sewell (1690-1736)

 Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. — Jacob M. Braude

If you've forgotten the language of gratitude, you'll never be on speaking terms with happiness. — Folk Saying

To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness. — Bertrand Russell (1872-1970)

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. — Donna Westmoreland Oneal (1949- )

You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips. — Oliver Goldsmith (1730-1774)



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Sunday, December 21, 2014

Monday Quotes



Losers make promises they often break. Winners make commitments they always keep.
- Denis Waitley

Flatter me, and I may not believe you.
Criticize me, and I may not like you.
Ignore me, and I may not forgive you.
Encourage me, and I may not forget you.
- William Arthur Ward

Success is not measured by th position one has reached in life, rather by the obstacles overcome while trying to succeed.
- Booker T. Washington

It isn't the great big pleasures that count the most; it's making a great deal out of the little ones.
- Jean Webster

To live with fear and not be afraid is the final test of maturity.
- Edward Weeks

The crisis of today is the joke of tomorrow.
- H. G. Wells

None are so empty as those who are full of themselves.
- Benjamin Whichcote

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.
- William Allen White

There are thousands of reasons why you cannot do what you want to. All you need is one reason why you can.
- Willis R. Whitney

Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
- John Wooden

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Monday, December 15, 2014

Monday quotes




If you aren't going all the way, why go at all?
- Joe Namath

I have always known that at last I would take this road, but yesterday I did not know that it would be today.
- Narihara

Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you represents determinism; the way you play it is free will.
- Jawaharial Nehru

We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us... how we can take it, what we can do with it... and that is what really counts in the end.
- Joseph Fort Newton

Happiness adds and multiplies, as we divide it with others.
- A. Nielsen

What's going on in the inside shows on the outside.
- Earl Nightingale

We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.
- Anais Nin

You must have long range goals to keep you from being frustrated by short range failures.
- Charles C. Noble

I always try to turn my personal struggles into something helpful for others.
- Henri Nouwen

A label is easy to stick on, but difficult to remove.
- Old Proverb

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Monday, December 8, 2014

Monday quotes



Integrity is what we do, what we say, and what we say we do.
- Don Galer

The first step toward change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do. Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
- Will Garcia

Things don't turn up in this world until somebody turns them up.
- James A. Garfield

It's fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.
- Bill Gates

I am learning to be patient and compassionate with myself as I gain the courage to be true to myself.
- Shakti Gawain

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
- Theodor Seuss Geisel

No age or time of life, no position or circumstance, has a monopoly on success. Any age is the right age to start doing!
- Gerard

A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.
- Arnold H. Glasgow

Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.
- Vincent Van Gogh

You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips.
- Goldsmith

Star Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go and you learn at once how big and precious it is.
- Maxim Gorky

Do one thing at a time and do that one thing as if your life depended upon it.
- Eugene Grace

Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers don't like to do.
- Albert Gray

Many attempts to communicate are nullified by saying too much.
- Robert Greenleaf

A man can only attain knowledge with the help of those who possess it. This must be understood from the very beginning. One must learn from him who knows.
- George Gurdjieff

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Monday, November 24, 2014

Monday quotes




Star Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
- Joseph Addison

We all live under the same sky, but we do not all have the same horizon.
- Konrad Adenauer

Every truth has two sides. It is well to look at both before we commit ourselves to either side.
- Aesop

Only a fool tests the depth of the water with both feet.
- African Proverb

You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.
- Leo Aikman

Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.
- Muhammad Ali

You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.
- James Allen

Living a life of integrity is one of the greatest missions we can undertake.
- Greg Anderson

Experience is a good teacher, but she sends in terrific bills.
- Minna Antrim

Keep spiritually sound and be persistent. Persistence is the key. Just never stop believing in your dream.
- Deborah Aquila

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